When a bodhisattva visited Buddha – it is in the Prajnaparamita Sutra – and the bodhisattva complaint to the Buddha, saying: I feel so sad, I feel so sad about this meaningless life and all of that. And it is almost painful. Then Buddha: this is a noble wealth, you have so much merit that is why you are feeling sad about these things. When you don’t have that merit you will be distracted to all this gadgets and think this is life.
Shakyamuni Buddha himself said: we must all treat our life, our so called family life, whatever, as an experience of, ?? means like basically hotel. It is like a hotel. In a big hotel, people check in, and people check out, you understand. This is how it is. Our life is like that. New friends check in, old friends check out. You understand. And this is such an amazing teaching because this is how our life is. If you can think that this is the beauty of temporariness. Temporary stuff is so nice. It is very blissful and it is beautiful. When things are stagnant and forever, it stinks.
One should not be afraid of relationship too. If the relationship comes to you, from a very odd corner, I don’t know, if it comes to you, you should be confident and accept it, let the life flow. You will never know.
Our life is like trying to put three strawberries on the top of each other. You put one strawberry on the top of one and then you try to put another one. And it doesn’t work because they are slippery and they are oddly shaped. But the problem is the second one kind of sat on the first one. You know, strawberry, the problem is the second on sat one the – momentarily, and that give us some hope it may work. But life in general, it never works.
You are really blessed, that you are not a Tulku or Rinpoche. Actually there is a great master called Tsele Natsok Rangdol. He has a prayer, I saw, there is a really beautiful prayer. One section of the prayer, from the depth of his heart he said: “May I never ever reborn as a Tulku or Rinpoche.” It is really good. I do it every day, really. Because when you suddenly have these Rinpoches or some monasteries or Khenpos or whatever the line is so thin, so thin. Are you really, is your life for the Dharma or the Dharma for life. So thin. And I can almost tell you from my experience it is more from the other way, Dharma for living.
See, the question is why should we not have attachment to this life. So we visit the fourth one. Zin pa choong na ta wa min. Because it you are attached to this life or as long as you have an attachment to something, remember attachment, engrossment, infatuation, meaning even slight attachment means you have lost your sense, you have lost your rationality. Therefore you are bound to suffer. It is because of that. It is a strategy. It is actually, the whole dharma practice is, specially things like parting from the four desires, is really actually like a strategy, it is a life management.
See, life, life, so called life, people ask the question: “What is the purpose of life?” But even before you ask this question, what is the purpose of life, what is life? This question you should ask. What is life? According to the Sakyapa masters life is nothing but a perception. It is a continuous perceptions. Perceptions after perceptions. That’s life.
So called life that we have is basically a continuous perception. That is all we have, nothing else. All we need to do is alter this perception. We need to look at it in a different angle. We are very sure that what we are seeing is definitely not what it is. ??? in the Tibetan words. ??? means how it appears, ??? is how it is in reality. Yes this is how it appears to each other. You look at me, I look at me and this is how it appears. But this is not what it is. And these two, not falling to how it appears, and really get acquainted with how it is, is what we call spiritual path. Even in our mundane world, we have the expression: “Appearance is deceiving.” Yes, all appearance is deceiving. We need to transcend that.
We have to live for dharma, we should never have the dharma for the life. Life for dharma, not dharma for life.